Puzzled by Gallagher

Dear Editor,
    Re: “The Conservative Future of the LGBT Movement” [Under Covers Books blog, Feb. 22]: Maggie Gallagher seems to puzzle me. One, her near-psychotic obsession with preventing gays from being happy and miserable with marriage. I wonder if that money, time, and energy that she wasted could've been put to better use for her (if her marriage was in trouble) by getting a tummy tuck or botox injections that probably would keep her husband from being tempted by some 23-year-old female secretary, or even male for that matter. Though the other puzzle for me about her was when she said she's against gay marriage because of her religious "beliefs,” saying that gay marriage is not "real" marriage. So by her logic, anybody who chose not to have a religious ceremony and had a civil ceremony doesn't have a "real" marriage. What would she do if one of her sons came up to her and said, "Mom, I'm gay"? Would she support her son and maybe change her view about gay marriage, or would she still be digging her heels in on that, or even worse? Would she also be OK with calling her marriage a civil union as matter of law and still cling to the religious context of it as she chose to for the sake of bragging rights, just like those soccer moms having a "my child is on the honor roll" sticker to hide all of their other problems? I try hating her, but I can only feel sorry for her that she has to waste time and energy to control everything in this world to avoid being vulnerable and insecure about herself and her place in life. My advice to her: See a shrink and talk about all her myriad of unresolved issues (if any) and worry about her own life and be happy for what she has, not what she doesn't have, etc. Don't waste time on that.